I’m going to guess that a lot of us get stuck in the rage stage of faith deconstruction. It is a trauma response. Without recognizing it, we are grieving the loss of our former faith, friends, and family. The anger masks the overwhelming and often debilitating feeling of loss.

If you seek to restore relationships with those you’ve lost, start with these four questions: What do you love? What have you lost? Where does it hurt? What do you dream?